Do you feel like you’re running on a treadmill in life but haven’t even had a chance to exercise in the past month?
Do the words “not now”, “in a minute”, “hurry up” or “I’m too tired” ever leave your lips in a breathe of exhaustion or frustration?
Do you have knots in your stomach because you don’t feel you are performing well or can’t complete what you want on time nor get a sense of completion?
Chances are, you have been in a pattern of anxiousness for some time. This is not something to hide from or feel inadequate about nor fight. There is a lot you can do to support yourself and heal a condition of anxiousness and overwhelm.
According to Youth Beyond Blue 1 in 6 young people suffer from anxiety, and the Australian Bureau of Statistics report that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men identify with experiencing anxiety. And these figures are just representing those that are recognizing the anxiety and being honest about what they are experiencing. The reality is far more are likely to be experiencing anxiety without really knowing what it is or that the symptoms are not part of normal life.
Anxiety is a feeling of unease or unsettlement in the body and mind. When unaddressed it overtakes our movements and choices making living life feeling very much like hard work.
Some of the ways anxiety presents in the body include:
- ‘Knots’ or tightness in the stomach
- Digestive upset
- Increased urination and or diarrhorea
- A braced feeling in the body or parts of the body
- Raciness and a lack of clarity in the mind
- Feeling chocked up in the throat
- Feeling out of breath for no physical reason
- Tension in the forehead and or jaw
- A buzzing/racing feeling through the whole body
- A loss of appetite
- Racing heart rate
- Feeling like there is never enough time in the day to complete what’s needed
All of these symptoms can feel very uncomfortable and can lead to serious health issues if unaddressed. Some long-term consequences of prolonged anxiety include high blood pressure, endocrine and thyroid issues, diabetes and heart disease not to mention the effects it has on our relationships, our work and our general sense of wellbeing.
The question is, what is the anxiety or unease caused by?
“Anxiety occurs when a person is presented with any aspect of life they do not feel like they have the required skills to respond to.” ~ Tanya Curtis, Behavioural Specialist, Fabic.
A core aspect of anxiety is not being comfortable with other people’s reactions to us. Healing the pattern of anxiety is to get comfortable with other peoples reactions to us, not taking things personally, and getting a sense of what’s really playing out. Start to sense more of what’s at the root of reactions and getting comfortable with living more of whom we are rather than trying to please people takes a huge tension off the body.
When we live life to please, to fit in, to be accepted, to not ruffle anyone’s feathers so to speak we are not honouring how we are feeling, nor are we living in a true way. This living a lie creates great anxiety in the body.
We live in a world where there are many tensions and challenges to contend with. Or at least, that’s how a part of us sees it. The part of us that sees the world as one big challenge to tackle is the part that chooses to opt out of feeling all that is there to be felt – the good and the bad. It’s the part that prefers living with emotion, drama and complexity over inner stillness and harmony.
The truth is, this part of us isn’t really us at all – it’s an issue or program we’ve allowed in to stop us for living all of who we naturally are.
The thing is, by opting out of feeling all there is to be felt, we are choosing to not deal with what is at hand, what has been presented to us which provides a great opportunity for growth and evolution?
Healing anxiety and overwhelm
"Anxiousness comes from lack of presence. When you rush the body, it checks out – it is designed to move in moments. Understand this and you will heal anxiousness and exhaustion." ~ Serge Benhayon Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 303
The minute we clock that we are anxious or feeling overwhelmed is the minute we start healing it because we are making a choice to acknowledge that there is something awry.
Next up is to look at what areas of life may be triggering you to make choices that don’t support your natural rhythm. Is your overwhelm starting from the moment you wake up? Are you giving yourself enough time to get ready? Are you ignoring your body throughout the day in order to get through your task list? Simple things like overriding when you need to take a toilet break – with instead feeling, there’s too much to do to stop right now! Ouch our poor bodies have to cop the consequences of holding in waste. Are you eating lunch at your desk, without focusing and giving time to eating which supports the digestions process? Do you rush to get dinner on the table and the kids to bed?
From clarifying what situations or points in our day we are choosing to ‘opt-out’ of feeling, we can then take more responsibility by working with these (often reoccurring) themes the next time they come around. Working with building more connection with your body throughout the day will mean you are less likely to make choices that lead you to the slippery slide of overwhelm and anxiety.
When you do find yourself back in the overwhelm – the number one thing to remember is not to go into self bashing or critique mode… that will only fuel the overwhelm as you’ll try to compensate or make up for it somehow.
"The only form of active self-healing is the quality of presence in all you do." ~ Serge Benhayon
From here you will build a consistency in your day-to-day living that will gradually support you to let go of the patterns and behaviours that fuel anxiety and overwhelm.
Final tips for healing the patterns of anxiety and overwhelm
- Keep the healing process simple – avoid the self-berating and be patient and loving with yourself as you build a new way of being in life.
- Drop the perfectionism – in truth there is no such thing as a mistake for everything can be a learning opportunity and perfectionism only presents when we worry about what people will think of us.
- Give yourself credit for acknowledging that you are working with the tensions and feelings that have not been acknowledging for a long time. This is taking responsibility for your healing and is a huge step forward.
- When you feel people reacting to you if you’re expressing more of what you’re actually thinking and feeling, just observe and get a sense of what’s triggering their buttons rather than automatically taking the reactions personally. You could be sharing something spot on but the person is resisting feeling this for themselves or the way that you are living may expose how another isn’t caring for themselves or taking responsibility. There are many reasons for reactions.
- When you wake up in the morning take a moment to say good morning to yourself rather than race out of bed. Taking time to acknowledge how you are feeling each morning and throughout the day offers you opportunities to care and support yourself on a much deeper level.
Please contact Katie on 0412 187 458 if you would like to start a healing program to support you with anxiety or overwhelm.
 Beyond Blue, Statistics and References, viewed 3.2.2016